saying "no" around the holidays: a gift to yourself
The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, right? But let’s cut the shit—they end up feeling more like a pressure cooker of...
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Elise Smithmier
Oct 10, 20211 min read
ghosting sucks
Ghosting sucks. ⠀ ⠀ Cutting off communication with someone without any kind of an explanation can cause feelings of rejection,...
Elise Smithmier
Oct 10, 20211 min read
do not disturb
Setting boundaries is hard work (shout out to all my fellow people pleasers). Setting boundaries with our time and technology is even...
Elise Smithmier
Oct 10, 20201 min read
suppressing feelings
As tempting as it might be to push everything away and minimize our feelings, it’s so important to identify and acknowledge what we’re...
Elise Smithmier
Aug 27, 20201 min read
let's talk about sex
For many, sex is a taboo topic. Not talking about sex can end up causing feelings of shame, inadequacy, and fear, as well as create...
Elise Smithmier
Jul 29, 20201 min read
how to communicate when you feel defensive
#ThursdayThought When we experience a perceived attack or threat from our partner, we may react defensively by shifting blame elsewhere,...
Elise Smithmier
Jul 15, 20201 min read
life's small moments
#ThursdayThought It's that inside joke. It's the fight you don't pick. It's the touch when you walk by. It's the benefit of the doubt you...
Elise Smithmier
Jun 1, 20201 min read
seek to understand
Change happens when we honor our diversities by viewing them as strengths rather than weaknesses. Seek to understand, not assume or...
Elise Smithmier
May 18, 20201 min read
communicate with success
When communicating with your partner, use this structure: "I feel ______, and I need ______." This avoids the potential of criticizing or...
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