Elise SmithmierAug 6, 20201 min readrelationship ratio5:1 is the magical relationship ratio! For every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy relationship has five or more...
Elise SmithmierJul 29, 20201 min readhow to communicate when you feel defensive#ThursdayThought When we experience a perceived attack or threat from our partner, we may react defensively by shifting blame elsewhere,...
Elise SmithmierJun 13, 20201 min readwhen to seek couples counselingTiming is everything when it comes to couples counseling. Most couples wait years before discussing the option of counseling, causing a...
Elise SmithmierJun 1, 20201 min readseek to understandChange happens when we honor our diversities by viewing them as strengths rather than weaknesses. Seek to understand, not assume or...
Elise SmithmierMay 18, 20201 min readcommunicate with successWhen communicating with your partner, use this structure: "I feel ______, and I need ______." This avoids the potential of criticizing or...